So Heidi has a new thing, she often says “I beg of you” – she also says “I surrender” instead of “I’m sorry” but that is a whole other thing. Heidi uses ‘I beg of you” when it is something important she wants.
Last Friday we left home at 4am for a 6 hour drive to my nieces wedding, I’d been awake since 2am the day *before*, I was a little tired, not well and rather cranky. As happens when you are trapped in a car for 6 hours, tired, unwell and cranky, my husband and I snipped a little at each other. Not much, I might add, Ralph is amazingly patient, but there were a few moments of snapping and angry words.
Each time, Heidi would cover her ears and yell from the back seat “I beg of you don’t fight, I beg of you.”
For the return drive we again left at 4am and there was 2 hours of driving through very heavy fog, Ralph and I were both a little tense and this must have shown in our voices, although we were not arguing, simply both worried about our decision to leave early – in the hope both girls would sleep through most of the drive home, as they had done the drive up. Heidi piped up from the backseat “I beg of you don’t fight, I beg of you.” Trying to distract myself I asked her why she it bothered her when Mummy and Daddy disagreed.
Heidi said her friends Mum and Dad had a big fight just before the mummy went to live in a new home.
** Light Bulb **
In the last term 3 of the girls friends have had their parents split, that is a big deal for my girls and has really rocked their world. Annie was aware enough of friends who only lived with Mummy or Daddy or Grandparents, but hadn’t realised that a Mummy & Daddy partnership could be split up. However we were able to talk through her worries several weeks ago.
Poor Heidi had only really started to take it all in after talking to her friend and she was very worried, very very worried.
So our drive home was spent discussing how it is okay not to always agree with another person, so long as at the end of the day you are still friends. That some Mummies and Daddies are happier living in separate houses but Heidi’s Mummy and Daddy liked sharing the same house.